Being an introvert is not always the easiest of things. We are often misunderstood and some tasks that might be easy for others tend to cause anxiety for us. Being an introvert, I have faced numerous situations as a child and an adult that have bothered me to the core and that is why today, I wanted to share with you all my top 5 introvert pet peeves. I got inspired to write this post after reading a Ally’s blogpost which you can check out here.
‘WHY ARE YOU SO QUIET?’
If you are an introvert then there is a 99% chance that you have been in this situation. Yes, I am talking about that situation where you are sitting in a room full of people and that one person thinks it is a good idea to ask you “Why are you so quiet?”. Well, I don’t know Rebecca, why don’t you tell me why are you so rude! I don’t know what goes through people’s brains to ask this question in the first place but, I mean clearly you are making me feel even more awkward and uncomfortable by asking that so now even if I did want to try to be more sociable, I wont. So thanks for that!
It bothers me when people automatically label introverts as ‘shy’ and ‘quiet’. Yes, those might be some of our personality traits but there is so much more to us than that. I have come a long way in accepting that it is okay to be a shy and quiet person and that those traits do not make me any less than others and they do not undermine my other qualities. As a child and even and as an adult people have called me ‘quiet’ in way that makes it seem like a bad thing. Instead of embracing who i am, I have grown up not being happy with the person I am simply because people made me think that way. It bothers me that introverts are made to feel like they are not enough and that in order to fit in they need to be loud and put themselves out there- but that is so wrong. We are all unique and being different is okay, not wanting to be the centre of attention is okay, not being the loudest person in the room is OKAY!
This is actually kind of a silly one but definitely needs to be on this list. There are probably only 2-3 people in my life who can call me unexpectedly and not make my heart race and my palms sweaty. Other than that, if any one has to call me, I need at least 2-3 business days to mentally prepare myself. If those conditions are not met, you best believe I am going to sit there with my phone in my hand and watch it ring and go straight in to voicemail. You know what is even worse, when an unknown number is calling me- that is a total nightmare for that introvert inside of me! In short, this picture down here sums it all up for me:
BEING FORCED TO SOCIALIZE WITH GUESTS
I am talking about those guests that you literally see once in a blue moon and for some reason your parents think it is okay to force you to socialize with them. Um, no thanks but I am okay right here in my room with my laptop and snacks, you are most welcome to go socialize with your guests haha! But no really, as a child and unfortunately even now being forced to socialize with guests I have never met or do not particularly enjoy the company of has been one of those things that I truly dread! Please tell me my fellow introverts out there can relate to this!
And those are some of my ultimate introvert pet peeves- to be honest there are a lot more but I think this is enough for one post haha!
Let me know some of your introvert pet peeves in the comments below!
THANK YOU FOR READING! xx