Top Introvert Pet Peeves

Top Introvert Pet Peeves

Being an introvert is not always the easiest of things. We are often misunderstood and some tasks that might be easy for others tend to cause anxiety for us. Being an introvert, I have faced numerous situations as a child and an adult that have bothered me to the core and that is why today, I wanted to share with you all my top 5 introvert pet peeves. I got inspired to write this post after reading a Ally’s blogpost which you can check out here.


If you are an introvert then there is a 99% chance that you have been in this situation. Yes, I am talking about that situation where you are sitting in a room full of people and that one person thinks it is a good idea to ask you “Why are you so quiet?”. Well, I don’t know Rebecca, why don’t you tell me why are you so rude! I don’t know what goes through people’s brains to ask this question in the first place but, I mean clearly you are making me feel even more awkward and uncomfortable by asking that so now even if I did want to try to be more sociable, I wont. So thanks for that!


It bothers me when people automatically label introverts as ‘shy’ and ‘quiet’. Yes, those might be some of our personality traits but there is so much more to us than that. I have come a long way in accepting that it is okay to be a shy and quiet person and that those traits do not make me any less than others and they do not undermine my other qualities. As a child and even and as an adult people have called me ‘quiet’ in way that makes it seem like a bad thing. Instead of embracing who i am, I have grown up not being happy with the person I am simply because people made me think that way.ย  It bothers me that introverts are made to feel like they are not enough and that in order to fit in they need to be loud and put themselves out there- but that is so wrong. We are all unique and being different is okay, not wanting to be the centre of attention is okay, not being the loudest person in the room is OKAY!


This is actually kind of a silly one but definitely needs to be on this list. There are probably only 2-3 people in my life who can call me unexpectedly and not make my heart race and my palms sweaty. Other than that, if any one has to call me, I need at least 2-3 business days to mentally prepare myself. If those conditions are not met, you best believe I am going to sit there with my phone in my hand and watch it ring and go straight in to voicemail. You know what is even worse, when an unknown number is calling me- that is a total nightmare for that introvert inside of me! In short, this picture down here sums it all up for me:

Introvert pet peeves


I am talking about those guests that you literally see once in a blue moon and for some reason your parents think it is okay to force you to socialize with them. Um, no thanks but I am okay right here in my room with my laptop and snacks, you are most welcome to go socialize with your guests haha! But no really, as a child and unfortunately even now being forced to socialize with guests I have never met or do not particularly enjoy the company of has been one of those things that I truly dread! Please tell me my fellow introverts out there can relate to this!

introvert pet peeves

And those are some of my ultimate introvert pet peeves- to be honest there are a lot more but I think this is enough for one post haha!

Let me know some of your introvert pet peeves in the comments below!


87 comments found

  1. Iโ€™d love to read more of yours! I hate when people label you as being anti social, cold, etc when in reality you are just more of an observer and enjoy solitude

  2. Loved this can definitely relate to it. I may not be a massive introvert but one thing I notice is people asking me if I’m upset when I’ve just got my resting staring at my phone look. Great post x

  3. Even though I am not an introvert, my boyfriend is and I can totally see a lot of these pet peeves being applied to him. I’ve seen #4 a lot with my boyfriend. Whenever he has a call coming in, he keeps on hesitating to pick it up. I mean all of these qualities make us who we are. Thanks for sharing these peeves :).

    Nancy โ™ฅ

    1. Oh thatโ€™s such a great balance how you are an extrovert and your boyfriend an introvert!
      Haha, I always hesitate, definitely something I want to work on though! Glad you enjoyed! ๐Ÿ’—

  4. I COMPLETELY relate to the unexpected calls thing… I always let it go to voicemail if I don’t know the number.. if it’s important they will leave a message ๐Ÿ™ˆ

    loved this xx

    1. Hahah YES!
      If I miss a call and itโ€™s from a random number I donโ€™t even call back! ๐Ÿ˜…

  5. I totally agree – I hate it when people ask the “why are you so quiet?” question?! I’m usually pretty quiet and shy with a group of people, especially with a larger group as I hate the feeling of all the attention on me when talking – can always feel my face going red at these moments!


    1. Omg I can totally relate! I am much better now I would say but still I find myself in situations where I feel shy talking in large groups of people! xx

  6. SO true.
    Being socially introverted, I don’t do well with large groups of acquaintances or strangers. As soon as I’m used to a group, though, it’s like they’re family and suddenly I take on extroverted qualities.
    Or maybe that’s normal? ๐Ÿ˜€

    1. Haha! So true, people I am comfortable with, I can totally and completely be myself otherwise I can be super shy! Thatโ€™s totally normal! ๐Ÿ’•

  7. I feel the same way in every position. I’ve always been asked why I was so quiet, why am I so shy, why don’t I talk with the guests or anyone around me. Just hate that. And whenever someone calls me, I pretend I didn’t see the call. I just need my space to think about answering you.

    1. So true! I totally get the struggle. Itโ€™s harder when people are continuously asking you questions making you question why you are the way you are!

  8. I was always a naturally smiley kid, my rest face was pretty much a happy face, but sometimes when my mind wanders (aka goes blank and my brain has a little mid day snooze) I go completely blank.
    As a kid/teenager I was forever being asked “omg, what’s wrong!? You look so sad”, whenever I was just off in my own world. I had to stop daydreaming just because it became clear that it worried people because I wouldn’t be smiling!… Well, now I don’t care ๐Ÿ˜‰

    1. Hahah! That must have been so annoying, Iโ€™m glad you have let go of caring! Thanks for reading lovely! ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—

  9. I can totally relate to this post Huda. My family consists of the biggest introverts. We rarely go and socialize. We are very happy spending time together in the evening. We even love to go out together. I don’t think being an introvert is actually okay. Sometimes people will tag them as shy and quiet though. Socializing with guests was never forced on us by my parents but my kids were commented by the guests that I should teach them to sit and talk to guests. It used to feel…. I don’t know what hehe! ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Oh wow! I donโ€™t think anyone else should have the right to comment on what you should tell your kids, that would make anyone feel uncomfortable! I would always be SUPER quiet around family guests when I was younger and itโ€™s totally okay, I think kids learn on their own pace.
      Thanks for sharing that! xx

  10. Quiet is definitely not a bad thing. Unfortunately, some people think of quiet people as rude or snobby when that’s often not the case at all. I like that I’m shy because I know I have occasions where I’m not and when people get to know me they realise I’m more than shy x

    1. So true! I believe more people need to realize that being quiet isnโ€™t a weakness, and sometimes it takes time to get to really know is introverts! xx

  11. I feel your pain! I would love to go around to extroverts and ask ‘Why are you so exhausting?’ When I feel quiet and out of place, too much stimulation can seriously drain my energy. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Omg haha, I love that! If roles were reversed extroverts would definitely not like us questioning their personalities!
      And I can totally relate, i often feel drained after being with a large group of people where I feel like I canโ€™t be myself! Thanks for reading! xx

  12. This is the most relatable post ever haha! As a fellow introvert, I can fully appreciate and understand each of these points, especially taking phone calls and interacting with guests. I always get the ‘oh gosh are you okay, you’re really pale (as well as quiet) D: x x
    Ellis //

    1. Haha, omg! Also, when people say that stuff it makes SO much more awkward and conscious ๐Ÿ˜…
      So glad you could relate! ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’•

  13. As a fellow introvert I know exactly how all these situations feel. I hate when people ask me why Iโ€™m quiet, I just am. I donโ€™t want to start talking to people only for them to walk away and never say anything

  14. I was very much introverted as a kid. I wanted to be myself most of the time and would sit in my own room when birthday party guests arrived to celebrate my birthday. I hear : you are soooo sensitive – a lot. One of my biggest petpeeves to be honest. I am emotional, and I respect my feelings the way I want.
    If that makes others uncomfy, i’m not even sorry.

    1. I can relate to you! Iโ€™m also a very sensitive and somewhat emotional person! People just gotta accept others the way they are! ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ

    1. It can be exhausting at times especially if you are made the feel even more uncomfortable! ๐Ÿ˜ญ

  15. I relate to these so much! Especially the unexpected calls, I have this one friend that constantly FaceTimes me without warning and I always feel bad for not answering but itโ€™s so annoying! Atleast ask if I wanna call

    1. Hahah! Omg FaceTiming would be worse than call, and ikr, a text is always appreciated! ๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ’•

  16. I know this too well. I had a wedding this weekend and spent it sitting there silent. I donโ€™t mind going, but Iโ€™ll always just sit there. Luckily they didnโ€™t mind too much , but Iโ€™ve often had people ask me why Iโ€™m quiet.

    Toriย  |ย
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    1. Oh yeah I totally get that! I donโ€™t mind if people actually make an effort to talk to me, but if they donโ€™t and then ask me outright why I am so white, I find it so rude!

  17. Introverts are considered arrogant, find it tougher to be accepted everywhere, are less popular, find it tougher to climb the corporate ladder because of poor networking skills.
    Thought provoking post !!
    To be true extroverts are better equipped to succeed in life.

    1. Thatโ€™s true, and is a stigma I wish didnโ€™t exist! Introverts have other great qualities that are often ignored! xx

  18. Being an extroverted introvert, l can relate so much with your first point. I’m pretty much a good 50:50 blend of loud and quite and l can be either or. Hearing others constantly question your quiteness can indeed be too much. I loved this post so much because l think it’s something we can all take away and bare in mind when engaging with people. It was super interesting to read your side of it aswell. Thanks Huda!

    MJ x

    1. Thanks for this comment!
      Iโ€™m glad you found it interesting and itโ€™s quite fascinating to meet an extroverted introvert haha, and yeah, I feel like some people do need to be more aware how what they say could affect others! xx

  19. Did you just read my mind?! I relate so much to this entire post! Especially the first one, nothing and I mean nothing annoys me more than someone pointing out that I’m ‘so quiet’ in a room full of people. I’m just like – leave me alone!! If I have something to say I will say it, even then it’s a struggle surrounded by loud mouths lol. X

    Farrah |

    1. Omg! TELL ME ABOUT IT!
      This is one thing that has annoyed me so so much my life! The fact that people have the audacity to ask me that and make me feel like a 100x more uncomfortable ugh! xx

  20. Hit the nail on the head! And when people ask whatโ€™s wrong with you because you donโ€™t join in with a conversation!!xx

    1. Omg yes! Maybe we just donโ€™t have anything worthwhile to say at that moment! ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ

  21. Completely agree with you about the phone calls! If I don’t know who it is or I wasn’t expecting a call I’ll always let it go to voicemail, I even hate phoning to order a takeaway (thank god for Just Eat!) I just hate talking on the phone! I’ve had the ‘why are you so quiet’ comment a lot too and I agree that it’s so rude, if people give me time to get to know them and come out my shell I’d be fine but when they say things like that it definitely makes me feel more self conscious!

    Jess //

    1. Haha, okay thank god I donโ€™t mind calling for takeaway, but I totally get it cause my sister is like that too (she always forces me to order๐Ÿ˜…)
      And yeah, Iโ€™ll definitely feel more comfortable if the other person actually makes an effort! xx

  22. I used to be a massive introvert and it really annoyed me when people asked why are you so quiet, you feel like saying because I want to be and I am allowed too๐Ÿ˜‚ Really enjoyed readying this x

  23. Yes to all of these! I’m only ever shy to people who don’t really know me though! Once I’m comfortable…. I talk too much then! Definitely agree about the phone calls as well, I have one friend who clearly doesn’t believe in texting….and calls for everything! I personally only call when I have an actual emergency! So it always freaks me out a little! Trying to get more comfortable with phone calls though at the moment so they don’t make me so anxious… otherwise it can be a little intimidating!

    Katie |

  24. I cannot summon up the linguistic energy it would take to detail how much I absolutely HAAAAAAATE phone calls. Especially since it’s near impossible for me to make out what the person on the other end is saying half the time, and then I have to decide if I should pretend I heard what they said or embarrass myself by asking them to repeat themselves again… and again… and… again…

    1. Hahah! That must be sooo annoying! Seriously people should just text unless of-course itโ€™s a full on EMERGENCY! xx

  25. I can relate to every single one of these! And weirdly, sometimes I can be the life and soul of the party then others the feeling just overwhelms me and I can’t say anything. And I fully agree, we live our lives feeling ashamed when really, everyone is different and how annoying would life be if we were all extroverts shouting over eachother!

    1. I know! For me as well, my shyness depends on the situation and the company I have!
      Oh yeah that would be great sight (not), haha- we introverts need to be more appreciated! ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ˜…

  26. I also hate the “Why are you so quiet?” thing! The worst is when people take the fact that I’m introverted as some type of personal attack against them! It’s so confusing, because sometimes people get so angry and I really just don’t understand.

    – Liv |

    1. Hahah, thatโ€™s so true! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
      Like why canโ€™t they just accept the fact that this world has different people with different personalities!

  27. “If any one has to call me, I need at least 2-3 business days to mentally prepare myself.” OMG lol this is so me, I cannot deal with unexpected calls they make me anxious. I always end up letting the phone ring out and texting them back instead!

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