How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others!

How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others!

“The reason we suffer from insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel”- Steve Furtick

I feel as if the phrase, “stop comparing yourself to others” is the epitome of easier said than done. We all know we need to stop comparing ourselves to others but the real question is HOW. I have struggled with the issue of comparing myself to others for as long as I can remember. Only recently have I taken an active decision to stop this never ending cycle of constantly putting myself down. Incorporating these 5 simple tips in to my life, although have not cured this issue but have most definitely helped it become so much better.

How to stop comparing yourself to others

BECOME AWARE OF WHEN YOU START COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS

Living in the generation of social media, our minds have become so accustomed to comparing ourselves to others on a daily, perhaps even hourly basis, that we do not even realise that we are doing it. By becoming aware of when you start comparing yourself to others, you can tell your brain to ‘stop’. Stop before all those negative emotions start to hit you. Tell yourself to think of all the things, people and blessing that you have in your life that you are grateful for. Doing this on a regular basis has helped me so much in reducing this habit of unconscious comparisons that fill my head with negative thoughts.

AVOIDING TRIGGERS

Now, I know it is not always possible to avoid anyone or anything that causes you to get stuck in that comparison game. I am sure though, that there are specific situations or unhealthy people in your life that cause you to feel that way. Figure out who/what they are and try as much as you can to avoid or get rid of them. You know those people you have on Instagram whose perfectly curated lives sends a chill of envy in you every time they post a new photo; well, do yourself a favour and unfollow them- trust me! I started doing this and although it was hard at first, I realized that once I had unfollowed them, I forgot I even followed them in the first place. Out of sight, out of mind, people!

How to stop comparing yourself to others

STAY AWAY FROM SOCIAL MEDIA

We live in a digital age where social media has given us so many things to be thankful for. Keeping that in mind, it is also one of the top reasons for our generation constantly comparing their lives and achievements to others. Do not worry, I am not telling you to delete your social media accounts. Just taking some off of it can help you clear your head, refocus on your goals and be thankful. This is especially crucial if you are having a bad day or feeling demotivated and know that any kind of trigger could send you over the edge.

COMPARISON IS A NEVER ENDING CYCLE

Once you get your head around the fact that comparison is quite literally a never ending cycle, your life will become much more easier. If you are always basing your happiness on what other have, you will never be happy. You will never have enough. Just think about it. Even the person you are comparing yourself to is most probably comparing themselves to someone else. Which means that even though it might seem like they have everything, they really do not. For some reason, that thought really gives me a lot more ease.

USE COMPARISON AS MOTIVATION

This is one tip that has helped me tremendously when it comes to comparison. At the end of the day, comparing yourself to others does nothing good for your well-being. Instead of wasting my time and energy being jealous and envious towards those who have what I want- I use this fire inside of me as motivation to work harder. Believe that if they can get there, then so can you. Learn from these people, get inspired by them. That is what will get you what you want not sitting there feeling sorry for yourself. So, get up and get to work! If you do suffer from staying motivated then you can read this post on ‘ 5 Ways To Stay Motivated As A Blogger‘. Do not worry, this post can be helpful for any field of work not only for bloggers

How to stop comparing yourself to others

The issue of comparison is prevalent in our society now more than ever. Feeling as we do not have enough, downplaying our achievements and constantly undermining our self worth have become the norm; however, taking simple steps to dismiss this idea of life being a competition where we always need to outdo others can help us live a much happier and stress free life!

Do you suffer from constantly comparing yourself to others? How do you combat it? Let me know in the comments!

THANK YOU FOR READING! xx

 

 

 

91 comments found

  1. Great post!! It’s so hard to not compare yourself to other people. Like you said, especially now with social media, it’s easy to see other people achieving more or doing something you’d like to be doing and wondering “Why isn’t that me?” I really like your tip on using it as motivation, using it as inspiration instead of comparing yourself to someone else. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Thanks a lot! πŸ’•
      I have been using this tip for so long and it really helps SO MUCH! πŸ™ŒπŸΌ

  2. This post has some really great tips. It can be really hard to stop ourselves from comparing ourselves to others even when we know it’s not in our best interests to do so!

    1. That’s so true! I still find myself comparing myself to others at times, it’s definitely a work in progress! xx

  3. This was so refreshing to read! I’m seriously about to go right now and unfollow some people I’ve been comparing myself to lately. It’s crazy because you know exactly who to unfollow!

  4. Huda, I’ve really been enjoying your blog lately! You’ve been posting some deep issues we all have that have been so helpful to the community. It’s been great to follow you through this journey of acceptance and self worth. I have a particular person in mind who I’ve compared myself to often, and I need to stop! And you’re right, we can learn from these people to do better in our own lives through motivation.

    1. Aw thank you so much Kayla! That means so much to me! πŸ’•
      Yesss, we really can although it’s so hard at first and we all struggle with it!
      I hope you got some useful tips out of this! 😘

  5. This is a great post. I’m definitely guilty of comparing myself to others and it used to really get me down, but I haven’t done it in a while and everyone should try to do it less.

    1. Yess! It’s so refreshing to be at a point where you are so happy in yourself that you don’t even want to compare yourself to others!
      Thanks for reading! πŸ’•πŸ’•

  6. I’m definitely guilty of comparing myself to others, and this post is perfect! I think taking a step back from social media is so important, at the end of the day, people only share the good, and sometimes we forget that! Loved this post x

    Evie x | https://eviejayne.co.uk

  7. This was seriously so helpful! I’m the worst for comparing myself to other people, and I think this post is so important! I unfollowed a lot of people on Instagram and instantly felt the benefits! πŸ’—

    1. I’m so happy you found it helpful girl! πŸ’•
      I know right, I’m so glad I did that too, helps so much! πŸ™ŒπŸΌ

  8. I agree with this post 110%! It is important that we don’t compare ourselves with other people because life is not a competition. There’s room in the world and success for everyone. We don’t see the full picture of people’s lives on social media. Some can omit bad things that happened (which is fine) and people get a vision that thing might seem perfect. Thanks for speaking about this topic~

    Nancy β™₯ exquisitely.me

    1. You are welcome! Yes, it’s so crazy how we so easily forget that no one puts their bad moments on social media, only the good ones! πŸ’•

  9. I’m literally terrible at comparing myself. Especially as a new mum. I always think everyone is doing better that me! A great read!

    1. Ahhh, I can’t imagine how frustrating that much be! I hope this post could have helped you out in some way! I am sure you are doing amazing as a mum! πŸ’—πŸ’—

  10. Staying away from the social media is super effective way to get rid of the habit of comparing yourself to others. I don’t know, I’ve never really compared myself to anyone, haha. This was such a great read!

    lots of love, Jasmin
    // littlethingswithjassy.com

    1. Haha, omg! Are you serious! I need to know your secret then! πŸ˜…
      Thank you for reading! 😘

  11. I definitely agree that social media fuels comparison. When I see my best friend now chilling with her boyfriend on the beach, when a year ago, we moaned about not having baes, it sucks for me. Same goes for when my friends get jobs. Great post though, super positive and motivating. Found you through the #TeaCup

    1. I totally get you! The worst is when you feel it towards people you are close to! I don’t like myself when I get feeling of resentment and jealousy towards others and I really want to change that!
      Thank you for reading! πŸ’•

  12. This is such a brilliant post! It’s so easy to compare ourselves to others when we scroll through social media. Its fantastic advice to turn the negative into the positive and use the energy as motivation to work harder. Loved this post, thank you for sharing! πŸ’– xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

  13. Comparing yourself can be really bad for your moral. But as a blogger it is really hard to stay away from socials so you need to learn that you can’t compare yourself to someone who has been blogging for so long when you’ve done it a year or two

    1. Yess exactly! Plus everyone is their own path and all we can do is focus on ours! Thanks for reading! 😘

  14. Great post and such an important subject, I used to compare myself to other writer and that is never helping. Stay positive always inspire others and myself.

  15. A fab post with some great points, it’s a very mindful approach. Are you familiar with mindfulness at all? If you’re not you’d really enjoy it I think, it’s right up your alley πŸ™‚ I’ve definitely been one of those who has gotten caught up in comparisons before, especially as I’m disabled and have terrible eye sight so as beauty blogger I’m never going to be on the same scale as other beauty bloggers. I think getting into mindfulness for something entirely different probably helped me come to terms with that and end the vicious comparison cycle using many of the tips you mention here πŸ™‚

    1. Thank you so much!
      I have heard of mindfulness and I am a little familiar with it as I practiced it a few times in meditation but I never took it seriously. Now that you have mentioned it, I definitely want to. I have heard it has so many benefits for us mentally!
      Thank so much for sharing this!
      https://beaulife.org

  16. I agree. Comparison is the root of all evil ;). I overcame it over time realising that with enough faith and focus any goal can be conquered so I stopped comparing anf started enjoying tbe journey because I know it’s always a matter of time for me to get to where I’d like to be too!

  17. Great post! I agree, staying away from social media is a great way to reset when you feel that comparison urge start to creep up!

  18. I struggle with comparing myself to others EVERY SINGLE DAY. It’s awful and even when I realize I’m doing it, I don’t stop. Your tips are perfect, and I love when you said to unfollow those people. That’s not possible for ALL of the people I compare myself to, but in those instances I’ll use that to work harder. Thanks for the tips! Great post!

    1. I totally understand your struggle! It is the most frustrating thing and really prevents you from being happy! I really hope these tips can somehow help you out as they have for me!
      Thanks for reading! xx

  19. I always compare myself to others, which i know is unhealthy. Your article really inspires me to accept myself and embrace it❀

  20. Great post!! Well written too. You have made some very good points. I try to be grateful with what I’ve got and strive to always see myself as an individual and love my uniqueness. And I see myself as a contribution. I guess I just motivate myself and give myself a prep talk. But letting go of people is so effective. I’ve tried it and I have seen a considerable difference in my life!!

    1. Those are some great tips! Giving your self pep talks is actually a good one that I use myself as well! xx

  21. Good read to start the day with a great attitude! Thank you for some great points and outlook! We are here to do well and wish and cheer each other on toward our own success. #peoplesupportingpeople #dothiseveryday #waystobehappy #nocomparing #nojudgements #haveablessedday
    https://imayogagirl.com

  22. Absolutely agreeing to this! I used to compare myself a lot with my ex’s ex girlfriend, telling myself that i’m not any better or worse still, having the thought that his friends probably told him he had a downgrade. but I realised putting it to a stop not only made me feel better but increases my self-confidence as well! Thank you for such a good post!

    ateeblogs.wixsite.com/blog

    1. Thank you so much for sharing that lovely!
      I am so glad you realized abc it truly is so easy to get stuck in to that never ending cycle of comparison! xx

  23. Such a lovely post!❀️ I truly believe we all have unique gifts to offer and should support each other πŸ’—

  24. What a great post! I am always comparing myself to others (particularly on Instagram or Facebook) and I will definitely take on board your advice. I really like your last point about using comparison as motivation to get what you want. It sounds so simple, but I’d never really thought about doing it!!

  25. Social media can be a massive trigger for some people. I cannot say that I am comparing myself a lot however I’ve noticed that for me one of the triggers can be people around me rather than people I follow on Insta or Twitter. It can possibly be because I know that social media is a creation rather than reality in a lot of cases. Love, Iga http://www.igaberry.com

    1. That is actually very interesting! In a way it’s better because atleast your mind realizes that the social media stuff is not all real so you don’t get the tendency to compare yourself to them haha!
      I also feel it with people around and that is honestly worse because sometimes it would happen with people i love! xx

  26. Great post! I think our brains are tuned into this comparison malarkey. It’s second nature. It is also especially difficult for those of us blogging and leading so much of life on social media meaning it is harder to just walk away. I think it is all about balance, like most things. A little bit of comparison can help motivate us to improve but it can so easily become too much. Really enjoyed reading this, thank you for sharing such insightful thoughts! πŸ’– xx

    Amy | http://www.missamyrach.com

  27. Thank you for sharing! I think we ALL compare ourselves to others whether we like to admit it or not.

    I think my favorite tip was USE COMPARISON AS MOTIVATION….I believe this is the most successful tip. We should push our selves to have that dream house, to travel the world or what ever it is that you are feeling jealous about.

    Thank you ! this was such a great post

    xoxo,

    Budgetgirlife.com

    @budgetgirlife

    1. Thank you so much! Makes me so happy that you liked it and yess, that tip is honestly so helpful! I’m sure those people who have that fancy life also struggled and put in hard work and so we should do the same! Thanks for reading πŸ’•

  28. I totally agree comparison is a never ending cycle. It’s so hard to break once you’re in the habit of it. But using comparison to motivate yourself is such a good tip. What a great way to turn a possibly negative energy into a positive one!

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