“The reason we suffer from insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel”- Steve Furtick
I feel as if the phrase, “stop comparing yourself to others” is the epitome of easier said than done. We all know we need to stop comparing ourselves to others but the real question is HOW. I have struggled with the issue of comparing myself to others for as long as I can remember. Only recently have I taken an active decision to stop this never ending cycle of constantly putting myself down. Incorporating these 5 simple tips in to my life, although have not cured this issue but have most definitely helped it become so much better.
BECOME AWARE OF WHEN YOU START COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
Living in the generation of social media, our minds have become so accustomed to comparing ourselves to others on a daily, perhaps even hourly basis, that we do not even realise that we are doing it. By becoming aware of when you start comparing yourself to others, you can tell your brain to ‘stop’. Stop before all those negative emotions start to hit you. Tell yourself to think of all the things, people and blessing that you have in your life that you are grateful for. Doing this on a regular basis has helped me so much in reducing this habit of unconscious comparisons that fill my head with negative thoughts.
Now, I know it is not always possible to avoid anyone or anything that causes you to get stuck in that comparison game. I am sure though, that there are specific situations or unhealthy people in your life that cause you to feel that way. Figure out who/what they are and try as much as you can to avoid or get rid of them. You know those people you have on Instagram whose perfectly curated lives sends a chill of envy in you every time they post a new photo; well, do yourself a favour and unfollow them- trust me! I started doing this and although it was hard at first, I realized that once I had unfollowed them, I forgot I even followed them in the first place. Out of sight, out of mind, people!
STAY AWAY FROM SOCIAL MEDIA
We live in a digital age where social media has given us so many things to be thankful for. Keeping that in mind, it is also one of the top reasons for our generation constantly comparing their lives and achievements to others. Do not worry, I am not telling you to delete your social media accounts. Just taking some off of it can help you clear your head, refocus on your goals and be thankful. This is especially crucial if you are having a bad day or feeling demotivated and know that any kind of trigger could send you over the edge.
COMPARISON IS A NEVER ENDING CYCLE
Once you get your head around the fact that comparison is quite literally a never ending cycle, your life will become much more easier. If you are always basing your happiness on what other have, you will never be happy. You will never have enough. Just think about it. Even the person you are comparing yourself to is most probably comparing themselves to someone else. Which means that even though it might seem like they have everything, they really do not. For some reason, that thought really gives me a lot more ease.
USE COMPARISON AS MOTIVATION
This is one tip that has helped me tremendously when it comes to comparison. At the end of the day, comparing yourself to others does nothing good for your well-being. Instead of wasting my time and energy being jealous and envious towards those who have what I want- I use this fire inside of me as motivation to work harder. Believe that if they can get there, then so can you. Learn from these people, get inspired by them. That is what will get you what you want not sitting there feeling sorry for yourself. So, get up and get to work! If you do suffer from staying motivated then you can read this post on ‘ 5 Ways To Stay Motivated As A Blogger‘. Do not worry, this post can be helpful for any field of work not only for bloggers
The issue of comparison is prevalent in our society now more than ever. Feeling as we do not have enough, downplaying our achievements and constantly undermining our self worth have become the norm; however, taking simple steps to dismiss this idea of life being a competition where we always need to outdo others can help us live a much happier and stress free life!
Do you suffer from constantly comparing yourself to others? How do you combat it? Let me know in the comments!
THANK YOU FOR READING! xx