I recently turned 24 and it made me think of all the things I wish I knew when I was younger. It also made me realize how much I have learned and changed over the years. If you guys are interested in hearing some of my wisdom then keep on reading to find out what are those 5 things I wish I knew 5 years ago! I actually got inspired to do this post after reading For A Rainy Day’s blogpost so have to give her a shoutout!
IMPORTANCE OF INVESTING IN RELATIONSHIPS
You know what they say, ‘the older you grow, the harder it is to make friends’. Now I don’t know if that is true or not but what I have come to learn after 24 years of my life is that you NEED people. You need to make genuine connections and meaningful relationships. Not just for the happy times but especially for the hard times. Throughout my teens and early twenties, I severely neglected the importance of investing in relationships. I am now at a point in my life where I am really noticing that gap. Being an introvert, I have always been somewhat of a loner. I loved spending time by myself so much that I convinced myself that I was all fine by myself. I didn’t need to put in work in the relationships around me. If only I knew then how wrong I was. So here’s my little tip for you guys- invest in relationships. Take out time for others, listen to others, go out of your way to help others. At the end of the day, nothing really matters other than being surrounded by people who genuinely love and care about you.
GETTING OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE = GROWTH & OPPORTUNITIES
“Comfort- the enemy of progress”- The Greatest Showman.
I love staying in my little bubble of comfort- heck we all do. Everything feels safe and easy in there. It took me a long time to realize that the uneasy feeling of doing something unfamiliar and risky is actually a good thing. The truth of the matter is that unless you get out of that your comfort zone, you are stopping yourself from growing, learning and from experiencing some amazing things in life. I think about all the opportunities I have missed because I chickened out. Only because Those things were out of my comfort zone. I have noticed that the times I do get out of my comfort zone, most of the times it ends up being not so scary after all and I feel amazing afterward. I have made a goal for myself this year- to do more things that scare me and are out of my comfort zone. There is not much to lose but so much to gain!
FOLLOW YOUR PASSION
Since a really young age, I had a passion for makeup. I loved watching people do their makeup, I would buy new makeup every chance I got, I loved trying out different products but I never really believed that I could have a career in it. I was also quite interested in Psychology and was seriously considering going to university to study it. At the back of my head, I knew these were things I was passionate about but what did I really end up studying at university? Human Resource Management. Why? I really don’t know. To be honest, that degree is quite useless to me. I went for that option because it felt safe. I assumed it would be easier to get a job in that field and due to that I spend 4 years of my life studying it- okay maybe I am making it sound way more tragic that it really is but my point is- if you have a passion, follow it. Do you really want to end up in a job where you dread waking up every day having to go to work and only look forward to those 2 days at the end of the week? I am sure you don’t. This is definitely something I wish someone would have told me 5 years ago!
IT IS OKAY TO BE DIFFERENT
It’s sad the amount of time of my life I have spent trying to fit in. The funny thing is that even after trying so much, I still never truly felt like I fit in. Being myself around others is something I have struggled with my entire life and still do till this day. I don’t know why most of us tend to see different as something bad. I mean if you really think about it what will we really get by being like everybody else? Our differences make us stand out. They are what makes us special. Yet here we all are, trying to be like everyone else. I honestly would have saved myself a lot of stress and energy if I had realized sooner that it is okay to be different. So, go ahead and embrace those differences- trying to be others is such a waste of you really are!
HAPPINESS IS A JOURNEY, NOT A DESTINATION
I always used to ask myself when will that time come when I will finally be able to say that I am truly and genuinely happy. I used to convince myself that once I get this or that then I will finally be happy. What I have come to learn is that happiness is just a state of mind. We need to stop convincing ourselves that only those big accomplishments can make us happy. Getting a new car, buying a new house or finally landing that dream job- sure these things will make you happy for a while but then once again you will be back to normal looking for the next best thing. As cliche as it sounds, I have come to realize that happiness is everywhere around us in the little things. We just need to look hard enough. If we want, we can be happy every day. Life is honestly too short to wait around for those big accomplishments to make us happy. I do wish I had taken the time to enjoy life more when I was younger instead of stressing and convincing myself that something in the future will magically make me happy!
The best thing about the past is that you can always learn from it and aim to do better in the present and in the future. If you are a better person than you were yesterday, then that is the biggest accomplishment on its own.
What are 5 things you wish you knew 5 years ago?
Let me know in the comments!
THANK YOU FOR READING!